It appears to me that a lot of couples these days, forget who they started out being.Many couples forget their roots.Once they become a couple, they often lose track of the reasons why they bonded in the first place. Why is that? Do we really change all that much? I don't think so. So why then do we so often start to drift apart? The truth is we just get too comfortable, and no longer put forth the effort that we did in the beginning. So, how do we fix this you ask—by nipping it in the bud before it gets to the point of no return.
You should reflect on your relationship and what has changed—likely there was there more kissing, touching, texting and bantering than now . Those early connections not only moved the relationship forward initially, they are also instrumental in keeping the relationship fresh now. Who in their right minds would let that initial excitement die? For a long term relationship to succeed for the long term, a lot of work is required from both parties. Stress is the usual place to put the blame, but that is not always applicable. All these issues were probably the same ones we've dealt with in the past that made us closer in the first place.
We fall into a pattern- we get lazy. We get into our comfort zone, and let things deteriorate past the point of no return. Men might get in the habit of checking out other women and not paying attention to the one they are with. Now, I am not putting any blame here - women can be guilty of this also. The point is we stop complimenting each other, and for the person at the other end of this scenario it can be quite a let down. We make each other feel less attractive, less desirable and less needed. Most times were even afraid to say something for fear of upsetting the other person even though their actions have made us angry. Both men and women need to be fearless in expressing their disapproval, and faultless in absorbing and trying to understand the complaints. We need to always be aware of our partners feelings - relationships take work, and when both partners work at it - it grows into a lasting romance. Here are some examples of points to ponder to keep a relationship healthy:
1) Go out of your way to complement your partner each day. It will make both of you feel good.
2) Tell them you love them --- sometimes we don't hear this enough
3) Men have to stop staring at other women – it may be conditioned by advertising, but it is just demeaning to your partner. And women need to think about comments that they may make about other guys.
4) Honesty.....no one likes to be lied to so why do it. Tell each other everything, it will produce conversation
5) Have some alone time....every day make a little time whether its just a stroll, or snuggling up on the sofa to watch a movie
6) Talk to each other and make sure you bring up issues and work them through before they become an insurmountable obstacle.
7) Start your day off with a kiss and a statement that re-enforces your love and commitment to each other.
8) Be relaxed and do not be afraid of public displays of affection – some public kissing and tenderness will exhibit to the world how you care about your partner and broadcast to them that you love them and want to make sure that everyone knows it
9) Make sure that you smile and take life as the fun adventure that it is meant to be. You may think that frowning and being serious all the time is a way to get ahead in life, but in actual fact it works against you in your personal life, your relationships and in your professional business life as well.
10) Make a point of never going to bed angry- whatever is bothering you talk it out, its not worth losing sleep over, and it starts your next day on a negative note. Make some time to snuggle when you get into bed....create a good night ritual. Some couples just get into their own sides of the bed, and that's it. I don't know about you, but that is not my idea of a Good Night. Take a few moments to caress, and make going to sleep a wonderful thing knowing that you will be waking up beside your Prince or Princess in the morning.
Relationships are not work at all once you develop the habits of endearment that make any relationship thrive.
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